Selena Gomez wants to dance with somebody at her wedding—just not her husband-to-be Benny Blanco.
The Only Murders in the Building star has a different plan in lieu of a traditional first dance when it comes to their nuptials. And there is another special man involved—but it’s not what you may think.
“I don’t think we’re looking at having one of those,” Selena, 32, said on the Table Manners with Jessie and Lennie Ware podcast April 30, referring to the couple’s first dance. “’Cause they’re a little…”
Benny, 37, who proposed to Selena in December, interjected to finish his fiancée’s thought, adding, “She’s shy.”
Instead, Selena hopes that she can share a sweet moment with her maternal grandfather, who she affectionately calls Papa.
“I am looking to have a special dance with my papa,” the Wizards Beyond Waverly Place actress said of him, who is dad to her mom Mandy Teefey “He never got a chance to walk my mom down the aisle because, good for my mom, she decided to go to Vegas and was like, ‘Whooo’ and she’s still been with him [Brian Teefey] ever since she was 26.”
“So it’s very cute that they did that,” she continued. “But I wanted to give my grandfather the opportunity to have that.”
However, Selena isn’t off completely the hook with the moves on her wedding day as her fiancé’s Jewish heritage will call for a Hora, which is traditionally done with the bride and groom being lifted in the air in chairs by their wedding guests.
“I am very nervous about that,” the “Who Says” singer admitted. “I have to be honest, it looks so cute and adorable. But I was like, ‘What, I have to depend on something like this?’ I just gotta have a padding around.”
And though activities like dancing may be on the brain, the I Said I Love You First collaborators aren’t in a rush to lay out the full plans for their big day.
"We’re very much 'take it one day at a time'-type of people,” Benny told Rolling Stone in March. “We’re still not over this moment. Literally, while you were talking, she was sitting there staring at her ring."
Keep reading to look back at Selena and Benny’s romance…
Blossoming Romance
Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco began dating in July 2023, around Selena's birthday, Benny said on the Howard Stern Show in May 2024.
But they only began to spark romance rumors in late 2023. That December, Selena confirmed the speculation, commenting on a fan page's Instagram post, regarding Benny, "He is my absolute everything in my heart."
She continued, "Why has he been the best thing that's ever happened to me. He's still better than anyone I've ever been with."
The Rare Beauty founder also shared a photo on her Instagram Story of her leaning her head on what looked to be Benny's chest.
With This Ring...
Selena later shared this pic on her Instagram Stories, which shows her wearing a bejeweled "B" ring.
That Kiss
...including a pic of the two kissing.
Quality Time
Also in December 2023, Selena shared several photos of herself hanging out in New York City with Benny and their friends.i
Appreciating Art
Two days after Christmas 2023, Selena shared new pics of the couple at what appeared to be an art exhibit.
PDA Alert
Selena posted this pic of herself and Benny one day before New Year's Eve 2023.
Slam Dunk Date Night
The pair attended the Los Angeles Lakers' home game against the Miami Heat in January 2024.
Can't Keep Their Hands to Themselves
The couple packed on PDA in this February 2024 snapshot.
Happy Birthday Benny
Selena shared a tribute to her boyfriend on his 36th birthday in March 2024.
Birthday Tribute
"Happy birthday baby!" Selena wrote on her Instagram. "Your emotional endurance, positive disposition, unbelievable talent (that blows me away), undeniable humor and loving, kind heart absolutely kill me. I love you @itsbennyblanco."
PDA Alert
Selena included this kissing pic in her birthday tribute to Benny.
Naughty PDA Alert
...and these couple's pics as well.
Open Book
Selena celebrated the release of Benny's Open Wide in April 2024, captioning photos of the pair enjoying a cake shaped like his cookbook, "So proud."
Happy Fourth of July
Selena shared this pic of the two on Independence Day 2024.
Who Said "I Love You" First?
In July 2024, just ahead of their first dating anniversary, the two answered a viral "Who's Most Likely To" TikTok challenge, during which they were asked who was the first to say "I love you" to the other person. The answer? Selena.
Getting Cozy
Selena and Benny cuddled up in cute photos in July 2024 following her 32nd birthday.
Night Adventures
The actress captioned a gallery of summer photos, "Thank you for sharing your life with me today and everyday."
Beach Babes
The musicians soaked up the sun together on lounge chairs.
Dinner Date
Selena shared a silly pic of the two enjoying a bite.
Summer of Love
They're just loving each other like a love song, baby.
Incognito
The two were bundled up with masks on during one of their outings.
Pucker Up!
In another snap, Selena wore Benny's beanie as they pursed their lips for the camera.
Not Single Soon
The "Eastside" artist gave Selena a kiss on the cheek in a sweet summer snap in July 2024.
Good for You
He wrapped his arms around her in another adorable Instagram pic.
She Said Yes!
"Forever begins now," Selena wrote in December 2024, while revealing their engagement. Benny quipped in the comments, "hey wait… that’s my wife."
Golden Couple
The couple enjoyed a date night at the 2025 Golden Globes.
Red Carpet Debut
Benny and Selena made their first joint red carpet appearance at the 2025 Emmys.
Tying the Knot
The pair got married in Santa Barbara, Calif., on Sept. 27, 2025, with guests including Taylor Swift, Martin Short, Steve Martin and Paul Rudd.