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Why Hayley Kiyoko Is Uncertain About Idea of Marriage With Becca Tilley

Hayley Kiyoko exclusively told E! News that despite being happily in love with girlfriend Becca Tilley, they aren't rushing to get married, especially because they love their "unconventional life."

By Sabba Rahbar Oct 29, 2024 8:59 PMTags
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Hayley Kiyoko knows what she needs from Becca Tilley. 

And while the "Girls Like Girls" singer gushed about being happily in love with her "amazing" girlfriend of six years, she admitted she and the Bachelor Nation alum aren't quite thinking about wedding bells at the moment.

"I don't know if we wanna get married," Hayley exclusively told E! News' Francesca Amiker at the Wizards Beyond Waverly Place premiere Oct. 28. "We have a very unconventional life and we love it."

Still, the 33-year-old didn't give a firm no, adding, "We'll see what happens in the future."

And Hayley couldn't help but rave about the life she and Becca have built together.

"I think a relationship is all about growth," she said, "and when you're willing to grow together and support one another then it conquers all. It's really wonderful." (For more from Hayley and others on the Wizards Beyond Waverly Place red carpet, tune into E! News tonight, Oct. 29, at 11 p.m.)

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Becca echoed a similar sentiment to E! News in February, saying that while they had discussed the idea of marriage, they were "good right now."

"Hayley and I will talk about things often where it's like, 'When we have a wedding what does it look like?'" the 35-year-old explained. "And just making sure we're on the same page so that one of us isn't like, let's do a grand situation and another person's like, I want something more intimate."

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But for now, the conversations are just conversations. And despite their love for each other, the couple were careful about being public during the start of their romance—they didn't confirm their relationship until four years later in May 2022—which Becca noted came down to her own thoughts on the matter.

"[Hayley] was like, 'I am so proud, and I have worked so hard to be proud of who I am that I don't want to feel like I'm back in the closet,'" she said on the Made It Out podcast in May. "And I'm like, 'I also don't want you to feel like that. But if you can kind of see my perspective, I'm navigating being a public person, and having a public platform, being from The Bachelor, it is really hard.'"

But despite any challenges, Becca is positive she has found the one.

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"When people talked about being in love, I did not get it," she told E!. "I was like y'all are being a little dramatic about the whole thing."

After she met Hayley, Becca says she finally understood "the hype."

"She's just the most special human," the podcaster shared. "Honestly, I've never been one to be able to express my feelings. And she just says the sweetest things in passing." 

To see more of the couple's cutest photos over the years, keep reading.

Scoring that First Impression Rose

"We took this picture after 5 minutes," singer Hayley Kiyoko posted on Instagram of meeting now-girlfriend Becca Tilley at the April 2018 release party for her debut studio album Expectations. "Her shirt said 'no time for romance'…..it’s been 4 years. I guess she had some time."

Private, But Not Hidden

The new couple posed together at NYLON's Annual Young Hollywood Party in May 2018, just weeks after meeting. Though they didn't post joint snaps on Instagram for years, "Hayley and I were never secret," Bachelor alum Tilley stressed on her Scrubbing In podcast. "Like, we were very much ourselves, we held hands in public, we kissed."

Coming Out Party

"Nothing new," Tilley wrote on Instagram June 1, 2022, days after they hard-launched their romance with Kiyoko's Bachelor-themed "For the Girls" music video. 

Back Where It All Began

When Kiyoko released her second studio album Panorama in July 2022, her girlfriend was there to sing her praises. "I am so excited for everyone to finally get to listen and get lost in this beautiful world you created in this album!" she wrote on Instagram. "You are incredible & I love you so much!"

The singer delivered a similar chorus, telling E! News at the time, "I'm so grateful to have Becca in my life. She has been an incredible partner and support system and cheerleader and honestly makes me laugh during a lot of stressful times."

 

No Longer a Mystery

Jinkies, guys! The pair nailed their first Insta official couples' costume, stepping out as Velma and Daphne from Scooby Doo, Where Are You!

Best Believe They're Still Bejeweled

When Taylor Swift added another Grammy to her collection at the 2023 awards show, Tilley and Kiyoko helped her make the whole place shimmer at her after party. "And by the way, we went out last night," Kiyoko shared on Instagram

Feeling Fearless

They don't know how it gets better than this. Six months after partying with Swift post-Grammys, Kiyoko and Tilley took their love story to the L.A. leg of her Eras Tour on Aug. 4, 2023. 

Changed For Good

"I think that being with someone who is so sure of themselves, as a partner makes you want to be like that because it made me go… Do I need to make myself smaller or make myself less than who I am to make sure [people are] happy?" Tilley (in their 2023 Wicked-themed Halloween costumes) said during a May 2024 appearance on the Made It Out podcast. "I don't want to have to do that anymore. I want to have people around me that love every part of me. I don't want to have to lessen myself for other people and she doesn't do that and I've always loved that about her."

And All Their Wishes Came True

Recognizing Kiyoko's April 3 birthday as "the VERY first step to us finding each other," Tilley wrote in a heartfelt 2024 tribute, "I love your passion… for life, for your work, for food, for the people you love. I love how much you care for people and always root for the people who need it most. I love how you want to tell me about and show me everything that inspires you and makes you laugh."

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