Jennifer Lopez Reveals What She Told Her Kids About Ben Affleck Divorce

Jennifer Lopez shared how she tackled the tough conversation about her divorce from Ben Affleck with her 17-year-old twins Max and Emme.

By Tionah Lee May 07, 2025 7:37 PMTags
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Jennifer Lopez isn’t scared of having tough conversations with her kids.

Months after she and Ben Affleck finalized their divorce, the “Love Don’t Cost a Thing” singer shared how she navigated telling her 17-year-old twins Max and Emme—whom she shares with Marc Anthony—about the end of their marriage. 

“I said, ‘I promise you, this is a difficult time, but you’re going to see that I’ll come out the other side stronger and better.’ I promised them that and I did it,” Jennifer, 55, said in an interview with El Pais published May 2. “And they feel it now. That gives me a great sense of peace in my life.”

Jennifer and Ben, 52, settled their divorce in January, five months after she initially filed to end their two-year marriage in August 2024. For Jennifer, navigating her children through a big change has brought a sense of pride.

“I’m happier that I’m a step further along than I was a year ago, two years ago, three years ago,” she said. “I’m proud of myself for that and I’m proud that I was able to navigate my children through difficult times, that they’re stronger and better because of it.” 

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And while she is no longer with Ben, Max and Emme still have a strong relationship with him which they put on display alongside his children Violet, 19, Serafina, 16, and Samuel, 13—whom he shares with first wife Jennifer Garner—during the premiere of his latest film The Accountant 2.  

"Kids are here, Jen's kids are here," Ben told Entertainment Tonight at the April 16 event. "For the record, Jennifer Lopez is spectacular, great to my kids, great ongoing relationship with them. I love her kids. They’re wonderful. She’s [an] enormously important, tremendous person of a lot of integrity who I adore and am grateful to."

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"Those relationships that you could have with children like that, it's the joy of my life," the Oscar winner added. "Those kids are amazing and I'm glad that this is a movie they want to come to."

For his part, the Air star spoke on the end of his marriage and where he stands with his ex-wife noting there was "no scandal, no soap opera, no intrigue" about their split.

"The truth is, when you talk to somebody, 'Hey, what happened?' Well, there is no: 'This is what happened,'" he told GQ in an interview published March 25. "It’s just a story about people trying to figure out their lives and relationships in ways that we all sort of normally do."

Keep reading to look back on Jennifer and Ben’s romance…

December 2001: Filming Gigli

The two prepare to film a scene for the movie in West Hollywood. The couple met on the set of the film.

October 2002: Spotted in Beverly Hills

The two are spotted in the city.

November 2002: Filming Gigli and Engagement

The two film the movie on Will Rogers State Beach in Los Angeles. That month, the actor proposes to the actress with a 6.1-carat pink diamond ring.

November 2002: Filming Jersey Girl

The two film the movie in New York City.

November 2002: Leaving MTV's TRL

Is there anything more '00s than both Bennifer 1.0 and TRL?

December 2002: Red Carpet Debut

The two make their red carpet debut as a couple at the premiere of her film Maid in Manhattan.

January 2003: Sundance

The two bundle up at the Sundance Film Festival in Utah.

February 2003: Daredevil Premiere

The two appear at the premiere of Daredevil, starring Ben as the superhero.

February 2003: Daredevil Premiere

The two appear at the premiere of Daredevil, starring Ben and future ex-wife Jennifer Garner.

March 2003: Oscars

The two attend the Academy Awards together.

May 2003: Basketball Game

The two sit courtside at a Los Angeles Lakers game.

July 2003: Canada Trip

The two film a Dateline interview for NBC in Vancouver.

July 2003: Gigli Premiere

The two appear at the premiere for their movie in Westwood, Calif.

August 2003: Gigli Is Released

...it flops at the box office.

September 2003: Wedding Is Off

The two postpone their wedding. No future date is given.

October 2003: Baseball Date

The two are seen at a Boston Red Sox game. The team is Ben's favorite.

January 2004: It's Over

The two end their engagement.

September 2021: Red Carpet Royalty

They're baaaack. On Sept. 10, the couple makes their first red carpet appearance in 18 years at the Venice Film Festival premiere of The Last Duel

September 2021: Look of Love

There's no denying J.Lo makes for a stunning plus-one! 

September 2021: Back to the Stage

Ben supports J.Lo at the 2021 Global Citizen Live event in New York City, where she performed onstage. It marked her first music gig since she performed at VAX LIVE in May, where the actor also appeared onstage separately, fueling rumors of a rekindled romance.

September 2021: Met Gala Debut

The two attend the Met Gala together for the first time.

October 2021: PDA at Premiere

Jen and Ben put on a sizzling display on the red carpet at the premiere of his film The Last Duel in New York City.

April 2022: Engaged Again!

Jennifer confirmed her engagement to the Gone Girl actor with a video posted to her On The JLo site, revealing a glimpse of her beautiful engagement ring with a green stone.

July 2022: Married!

On July 16, Jennifer and Ben tied the knot in a surprise ceremony at A Little White Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas.

July 2022: Post-Wedding Trip to Paris

The two vacation with her twins and two of his kids in the French capital soon after their wedding.

June 2023: Red Carpet Fabulous

J.Lo steps out with Ben in support of his movie The Flash.

February 2024: This Is Them...Now

Jennifer release This Is Me... Now, an album about her relationship with Ben. The record is accompanied by a musical film titled This Is Me... Now: A Love Story and the documentary The Greatest Love Story Never Told.

March 2024: Jenny on the Block

The couple enjoys a day out in NYC on March 30, 2024.

August 2024: Divorce

J.Lo filed for divorce Aug. 20, listing the date of separation as Apil 26, according to the filing obtained by TMZ.